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How to Win Friends and influent people by Dale Carnegie

Posted by Brandon Dillon on March 12, 2012

I have been studying this book for the past few weeks since I last said I would be going over them, just wanted to update everyone that this week look for a new post all about this book, which is an amazing classic that if you truly live by and work at these principles every area of your life will improve. The first three big things talked about and if you read this book and I hope you do, you will see that examples are given a lot about people from the early 1910-1930s.

The First three principles are, Do not criticize, complain or Condemn others. Sounds Simple enough but if this first 3 principles were applied by everyone in the U.S. then it would be an amazing country. So often do we criticize others , our spouse, our children, friends co-workers or people we Lead or manage, never once will criticism work to get anyone to do what you want. There are far better ways to get that to happen.

Complaining, so many do it, and even those who do it often and well don’t like to hear it, so that should be a huge clue that complaining does nothing to resolve the problem or condition that your complaining about. instead seek to find solutions that will be Win win or just put it out of your mind or else you will become very negative and obsessed about it and why let something you cant do anything about effect your day.

Condemning, while it sounds very much like criticizing this is a step up and more hurtful, and unless we be free from sin others could criticize, complain and condemn us and what would we try to do? Justify why we did what we do, or why we needed to do this or that, and we would never look at a potential teachable moment in life where we can grow and learn.

These are just 3 small principles that if you make a sticky note and put these three things on your steering wheel of your car or write it on your mirror in your bathroom or in your day planer and read them often when ever something comes up, it will greatly impact your life and the life of those around you.

More to come!

 

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